Get Out The Kitchen!! Before Something Burns Up!

How can one say I am in a open relationship?To me if it open its not your relationship, your means all you,to yourself etc..but to each is on. But when agreeing to these terms, can you really accept a person doing what he do with you, to someone else.What he say and feel the possibilities that  the same feeling with someone else,why not just be in no relationship and be open with yourself? I think a lot of women think they can handle this type of situation when everything works in there favor, but when it get complicated and your partner don't want to stay the night when you want them to or don't wont to no longer give you what you need then in there mind they react as if they are in a committed relationship they feel the need to start be devious,destructive and alot of more things, due to there feelings being wrap up in a open person who is probably open with everybody. The fact is a lot of people cant take the heat, but they refuse to leave the kitchen. They accept things that goes against there will, until they adapt, but still it might not be comfortable for them but they still deal with it in a sense having faith in a person words,what they tell you to initiate the foolish agreement, half the time when a person agree on these terms, its to have a slice of some one else pie.Everyone can be cool with dating someone else belongings but when some one dates a person they involved with  it, all hell break loose. Carma is a guaranteed visitor when you do things wrong,why date someone who has someone else? Some people say.."Well they not Married" but well they stay together,they have kids together, if he with her he will not speak to you.You shouldn't wont to touch that situation with a 10 inch pole! But some people can do it and do it well, but some can  not, I'm just saying why waste time and energy on someone who is obviously not yours,when you can spend that energy on someone who is not taking!